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The videos below, which most of us have seen separately, were made in different years by different people. They are not, to my knowledge, related in any way except subject matter.

I grouped them here because they each made me think about intimacy, isolation, and connection.


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Breakfast at Tiffanys

A few years ago one of my besties declared she was forgoing all wardrobe colors except black, white, red, and leopard print. The bold move was an attempt to emulate Audrey Hepburn in Breakfast at Tiffanys. It ended up being a little extreme and she reverted to the full spectrum, but I LOVE the idea of going for that amazing glamour. I grew up watching classic movies, and like most of us, adore the amazing fashion of Old Hollywood.

Here are some photos and pieces that I find glamorous, both red carpet looks and every day wear:

Milla Jovovich at the 2012 Oscars. Image via

Milla Jovovich. Image via

Emma Stone in London in 2011. Image via

Emma Stone. Image via

Katy Perry, image via

Katy Perry, image via

Bee, via her blog Atlantic-Pacific.

Bee, via her blog Atlantic-Pacific. I do believe that dress is Kate Spade. I have a Kate addiction. It’s a problem.

Wendy from Wendy's Lookbook (love her!).

Wendy from Wendy’s Lookbook (love her!).

I have to admit, when in doubt, the black/white/red/leopard scheme is a go to. While you’re at it, throw a trench cape with a fur snood over it. 

What’s glamorous to you?

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For the last 15 years, when I’ve met a happy couple, especially older couples, I’ve asked them a question: What’s your secret for a successful marriage?

Over the years, I’ve gotten some wonderful answers and I wish I’d written them down. Maybe that will be my next project…


At any rate, here are a few of my favorite answers:

I met a couple who’d been married 47 years. When I asked them how they made it work, the husband smiled like the sun had come out, took his wife’s hand, and said, “You both give 100% every day. You don’t give 50% and 50%. You each give 100%. Then if you fall short sometimes, you still have more than enough.”


Another couple I met around the same time was less serious. The husband (of 52 years) told me, “I just never turn on my hearing aid!” His wife laughed and punched him gently on the shoulder. They were holding hands. I love seeing older couples holding hands.


My oldest sister has been married over 25 years. When I recently asked her this question, she was thoughtful for a moment then said, “I chose early on not to speak badly about him to others. When I was a young military wife, sometimes a group of wives would get together and they’d end up complaining about their husbands. I didn’t want to speak about my husband that way, didn’t want to get in the habit of saying or thinking negative things about him. I’ve always been glad I made that decision.”


I met a Bay Area man last week who has been happily married 16 years, and spoke so sweetly about his spouse. He advised, “Marriage is like riding waves. Sometimes you go up, it’s good times. Sometimes you go down, not so good. But don’t get scared, don’t be afraid. Stick with it, it will go up again.”


What’s the best relationship advise you’ve gotten, or the best advice you have to give?

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Valentines Day, a loaded holiday, was my nemesis for many years.


I’m now a happily married woman (still a newlywed), and I fully realize just how lucky I am. I spent 20 years dating… kissed my share of frogs, and had my share of single nights. Those 20 years were spent working on myself (I know, I know, some of us have farther to go than others! Don’t judge!), figuring out how to be a friend worth having, and a real partner.

Hubs and I in September, 2012, on the ferry to Alcatraz for the night tour.

Hubs and I in September, 2012, on the ferry to Alcatraz for the night tour.

This Valentine’s Day, I decided to focus on loving my friends, my coworkers, my fellow man in general, instead of romantic love. My husband is on board and we’re not doing V-Day gifts or even cards this year. But just for fun, whenever we pass a display of Valentine’s Day cards, we pick out a few for each other to read. 



For the singletons out there, I hope you are enjoying the journey. There were times I did, and many times I didn’t. We all feel hopeless and alone sometimes. At the same time, as the song goes, “they call us lonely when we’re really just alone.” I took wonderful solo trips to Europe and Central America, had countless girls’ nights out, and learned that I enjoy my own company–whether on a crowded dance floor or in my living room by myself. 


Are you celebrating V-Day this year?

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Words to Live By

Today, I’ve been thinking about some of the advice I’ve gotten over the years. Some of it was good. Some bad. And a few tidbits echo back to me regularly.

My words of wisdom all star list…

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-Me. Wisdom gleaned from my cocktail waitress years.

-Me. This spilled out of my mouth one day a million years ago while judging some poor girl who was struggling with an unflattering trend.

-Me. This spilled out of my mouth one day a million years ago while judging some poor girl who was struggling with an unbecoming trend. You know you’ve done it too! And I remind myself of this every time I try on something unflattering.

-My sister Elizabeth. Given during a late night break-up mutual therapy session.

-My sister Elizabeth. Given during a late night break-up therapy session.

-A Drag Queen, in a late night bathroom consult at a club in Las Vegas.

-A Drag Queen, in a late night bathroom consult at a club in Las Vegas.

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-My Mom. She told me this when I was 16 and it’s shaped every day of my life since.
And this, this I just found floating around the interwebs... but it is TRUE! And I love it. And I hope it made you smile.

And this… this I just found floating around the interwebs… but it’s TRUE! And I love it. And I hope it made you smile.

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What’s the best advice you’ve ever gotten?